Jacket for 'Please Yourself. How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live'


UK - Fourth Estate
Brazil - Companhia das Letras
China - China Youth Book
Germany - Bastei Lübbe
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Italy - Sonzogno di Marsilio
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Please Yourself. How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live

By Emma Reed Turrell

Published Apr 2021

The Courage to be Disliked meets The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: Please Yourself is an essential, inspirational, wise and forgiving book that will liberate the people-pleaser inside us all.

Reed Turrell is a psychotherapist who works with people-pleasers every day in her clinical practice: clients wrestling with the complicated dilemmas of a life in which you can’t please everyone, but you don’t yet have the permission you need to please yourself.

In this ground-breaking and reassuring book, she presents an alternative to people-pleasing. Through the stories of people-pleasers across all walks of life she offers insights and techniques that will help readers understand themselves more fully and live more authentically. Her aim is to help us care better for others, without taking on their problems, through caring better for ourselves.


Utterly brilliant. If you’re a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life.

Elizabeth Day


I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering.

Emma Gannon


A helpful, reassuring book that will give you insight into discovering your no is even more valuable than your yes.

Julia Samuel

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